When an employee engages in this type of behavior, he or she is engaged in “fogging”. And some employees have become professional foggers. They have learned that if they simply take this approach with a manager, the manager will fold like a house of cards.
Now let’s call the employees’ behavior what it is – manipulation. Isn’t it true that the employee not only didn’t keep a commitment, but now that person also is trying to manipulate you? For that reason alone, you should be highly motivated to want to effectively put a stop to this type of behavior. So how do you do it?
The key is to leverage the following three strategies for dealing with pushback, while using a very CALM tone of voice and demeanor. Remaining calm is essential for any of the three strategies to be effective.
First: Use the Restatement Technique: Repeat the first of the three-part language approach once or twice (“We agreed, though, that deliverable(s) was going to be done by time frame and I’m looking at the fact that it didn’t happen.”
Second: If the person still is pushing back, say to the person, “But we had an agreement.” It is very important to remember that you are saying this as a statement, not a question. You are stating this as a fact, not something open for discussion. As needed, use this statement two or three times.
Third: At this point, if the employee is still pushing back, you have successfully held this person accountable for non-performance and now you want to segue and ask when the person will get it done.
When dealing with professional foggers, the objective is NOT to get them to admit they are wrong. Why is this? Think about it. If the objective is to get them to admit that they were wrong, then all they have to do is withhold admitting to it, and they win.
Do you have any employees who use guilt, anger and/or denial to get out of being held accountable for non-performance? Click here to download a free written transcript of a conversation that a manager has using the above language and approach with an employee that is engaged in persistent fogging. All you will be required to provide is your first and last name, and e-mail address.